You have set a New Years resolution that failed, you tried again and set a new goal and lost momentum, WHY?
Do you find yourself apologizing for things that are not in your control?
Be careful jumping to conclusions.
Do you ever catch yourself creating a story about something, only later on to find out that you had misinterpreted what happened?
Loneliness runs much deeper than the physical aspect of not having another person with you. Don't confuse it with solitude, which is of choice, is relaxing and often a form of self-care to recharge.
We all have people in our lives that do not see or agree with our dream.
If we listen to them, it is so easy to fall off course, So it is important to be aware of these red flags below, and adjust accordingly.
Have you ever went ahead and set a goal for yourself, starting out and feeling so committed. You knew this time was different. Then suddenly you are losing steam and unable to maintain your focus.
It’s allusive. It’s alluring. It's invigorating. It's timeless.
You may chase it for years, decades -- your whole life, even. And yet, when you find it, you know it.
Life provides an opportunity to grow everywhere we look.
Sometimes we just need to change our focus.
When you have hit a wall..
When you are stuck in your thoughts
When you are judging someone or something else
When you are presented with something you don't understand
Sometimes there are goals that you want to achieve but you lose momentum.
Being aware of these three steps will help you get back on track.
Did you ever want something so bad, but gave up before you even started?
The overbooking yourself
All just to avoid failure?
Consider a moment in your life when a negative event led to positive consequences that you were not expecting.
We have all experienced this at one time or another in our lives. We have our mind set on a certain outcome, but life sends us a curveball, and we go on a tailwind spin downward lost in the agony and pain of what was.
Imagine life through these eyes... What would be possible for you to achieve when you are fully aligned with your values, needs, and desires?
How would you show up if you had limitless confidence and courage?
What is possible from there?
Life can sometimes get the best of us, and feel like a giant snowball.
It can be overwhelming.
It can even be downright scary.
Noone is immune to it.
Even those you admire, who appear to have it all together hit bumps in the road.
The difference is all in how you handle it, and if you have the tools to come through the other side with your head high.
A metaphor I like to use is this.
When you let the problems pile up, and you sit back and look at what is going on all at the same time, it can feel like a steep mountain where you cannot reach the top.
Try this instead,
Imagine yourself riding your bike, and it is a hilly road. You see in the distance ahead, that the road is winding and has some hills of different heights so as you are peddling you put a plan in place to stay on course.
As you see the hill approaching, you pick up momentum, while gliding down the other side.
Because you used the tools you have and put a plan in pace getting over that hill was not so bad, and you are ready for the next one.
If you had not looked ahead and waited until the incline was in front of you, it would feel like a mountain, and you may not have had enough momentum to get up that hill.
This is what happens when you compound the problems you are facing rather than dealing with one at a time.
The Lesson: Look at the problem you are facing one at a time, and work through it. Do not look at all of them simultaneously or it will feel impossible to conquer.
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Have you ever had the opportunity to feel truly seen and heard by someone else?
Imagine being heard with a deep level of compassion and acceptance.
Imagine being heard, with no agenda or prejudgment.
Imagine being heard and accepted for who you are, seeing you as whole.
Imagine the feeling of connection that is possible.
It can be so scary sometimes to share your deepest secrets and your wildest dreams.
It can be downright frightening to share our biggest failures or most challenging fears
Where do these feelings come from?
It is the worry of what someone will say or think, the standards of society that have become deeply jaded by the effects of things such as social media.
Do you practice self-compassion? Do you treat yourself with care and love when you have come across your own mistake or fault?
This consists of:
Being Kind to Yourself - Be gentle and understanding rather than being hard on yourself or overly critical.
Think of something that you have wanted to do, but have not take action on. What was it that help you back?
What held you back is your story. This is something that you have been telling yourself to keep yourself safe. Your subconscious mind learned at one point in your life by doing this, it was the right thing to do, but not it is time to tell it Thank you, but I am going to be OK!
How aware are you of the words you speak each day?
Did you ever stop to slow down and think about how those words are impacting your actions?
It has been commonly accepted to be super busy. It is almost a standard part of the conversation. I used to think I was partly because I lived in the hustle and bustle of New York City, but I was wrong.
I have clients all over the world, and we are just SO busy all of the time.
Your life may be safe, you are responsible
You are known as dependable
You are well planned
You have each and every step of the way perfectly calculated