We hold onto the memories of the past because of the emotion it is associated with. In addition, we are more likely to retain and hold onto something negative particularly if we do not have a positive balance around us.
The 5 Steps of Letting Go of Past Hurt
1. Make the conscious decision to let go. The conscious commitment is required, because it simply does not go away on its own.
2. Express your pain. Find a way that feels like a healthy release and give it the energy and time to process. Your pain can be expressed through journaling, talking with someone you trust, or even a physical release. (Like hitting a pillow)
3. Release yourself from the victims mind. End the dwelling of blaming others. What happened is in the past now and it cannot be changed. Find the lesson or the gift you can take away. It may be as simple as being there for someone else that needs you. Giving can be one of the best ways for healing ( look at some of the people who inspire you most. You will find that most people with a deep commitment to help others have experienced great level of pain themselves. Your pain can be your gift.)
4. Forgive them and forgive yourself. ( a great reminder. Forgiveness is for you not the other person. Holding on to the pain or anger about what happened is only hurting you. It will never change the other person. But it could destroy you by holding on.
More than the trauma that happened to you.
More than those moments of doubt that try to snuff out your light.
More than the voices inside of your head choking your self-confidence with every passing second.