Learning to Say No Preserves Your Energy
Are you a "Yes Person"?
Do you find yourself overextended, regretting your decision, and resenting the person you said yes to?
It is time to start creating some healthy boundaries girlfriend!
Saying no initially may feel like a stretch.
Try starting out by saying " I will get back to you"
The goal is the avoid the knee-jerk response by saying Yes because you feel obligated.
During this time, you want to check in with yourself and see how this aligns with how you feel internally?
Take time to notice the following:
- When I think about doing THIS, how does it make me feel?
- When I am asked to do things like this, do I later regret it?
- How does this person make me feel when I say no? Am I doing this to avoid feeling guilty or confrontation?
- Am I doing this because I expect to gain something in return?
By increasing your self-awareness, you start to become more in tune with yourself and your needs. In time, you will have a much quicker response time, but the goal here is not how fast you can make up your mind, but that you break this pattern and make a decision that is healthy for you.
This is how you begin healthy boundaries